When you find yourself triggered by something or just can't let something go, write out the Feelings and Thoughts that you are having in response to the situation to help you gain better perspective and insight.
Often times when we are stressed we don't even know what we are feeling. Research supports that when we take a moment to identify and label the feeling in a kind and gentle tone, that it can help to calm the stress response in the body.
When bad things happen we often cope by beating ourselves up. This often leads to shame and prevents true change from occurring. Try this practice next time you find you are caught in self-criticism when something difficult has happened.